If you were abstinent, what would you do whether...?

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Ben
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your marriage partner turned out to have incurable sexual dysfunction? Would you annul the marriage, or would you remain a virgin for the rest of your life?

noworries898
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Wait... you're married and still a virgin????????????????

ElDuderino
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why would you receive married whether you want to be abstinent? Whether not for regular trim what's the point of being married.

MamaLuna
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This is precisely why I do not recommend waiting until after marriage!! I would have known this long before marriage was a thought and I would have dumped his butt before getting too attached!

Stephanie
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it really depend on why this is happening, whether this could be something that a physician can help then get
some help because you marry for sick/ and heath et.. so whether you truly marry for love then you would
do what every to make the marriage work whether you can..

Randy
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That's a good question. I can't answer that. Whether you can't live with it, receive the marriage annulled.

Queen Agnostic
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first of all, I would never receive married without test driving the man..... you never know what your getting otherwise and I have had some pretty crappy lovers when I was young and if i had married them... i would have divorced them.... and second..... nobody should remain a virgin.... so whether the guy cant consummate the marriage.... move on... get a divorce and find someone you can connect with on a physical level that is required for true intimacy

I love Gerard Butler
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Well, I'd know whether my future husband could deliver the goods.
That's why its always better to test drive a car before buying it.
Take a look at what happened to Toyota. If the consumers test drove it, they wouldn't have bought a defective product. Same applies to marriage and choosing a partner.

Richard
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i'm on the virgin road right now.

josie
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If I was in love - true true love - I would still have to have some sort of sexual interaction with my partner. Whether it be oral, manual, whatever - Something, and even then it would be extremely difficult for me If I was with someone and they became paralyzed so that all sexual interaction was not an option - I may have to begin a relationship with someone else but would still want to care for and be friends with the original person Very tough! I pray this is a hypothetical question you're not in this situation -(

Robert
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You need to stop making excuses, receive over your fear of sex and begin touching your wife. It's not gross and you won't go to H I promise.

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Ben, you need to reword this impeach. It does not make sense. Most people cannot be abstinent, married and find out your spouse has incurable sexual dysfunction and then remain a virgin? Too numerous variables that do not coincide with in one situation. And what type of sexual dysfunction are you thinking of/? Ed...erectile dysfunction...they have pills for that.

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I waited until marriage, and I can honestly say that it would not sway my decision at all. They have hands, don't they? (sorry if that's Tmi. Whether you love someone, you don't love or marry them for sex. d

greeneyed
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Wow, thats a real tough one..
if you stay in the relationship forever, most likely u will do it out of obligation and guilt whether you leave...U need to first think..do you really love her, can this marriage survive w/o sex and w/o infidelites because of her dysfunction? Is ur relationship so deep and full of love that no matter how long u have to go without sex, it wont matter because all you want is her love and companionship? How would you feel whether you left her, (guilt aside)?

Be sincere with ur answers...no one will know them but you. You cant stay in a marriage out of obligation or fear of pain her feelings for being shallow' and selfish need to think about ur happiness, and if in fact u are not happy in this relationship, or feel that eventually you will be untrue, then ur best bet is so end the marriage. You are here asking this impeach for a reason..if u truly were in love, u would have no doubts of staying in this marriage and making it work while being selibate the rest of ur life...but ur not, ur are doubting it and asking for help. which means u are not happy and not willing to stay in this marriage.

Just re-evaluate ur marriage, and be true to your feelings, life is too short to spend it unhappy, trying to make someone else happy...

Good luck and I wish u the best